Monday Morning Coffee – Selfish – Not Stingy!

Good Rainy Monday Morning!

When I look at what Wiki has to say about “selfishness,” I see an entire spectrum of meaning from: “as standing at the roots of the Seven deadly sins in the form of pride.” to “Adam Smith with the concept of the invisible hand saw the economic system as usefully channeling selfish self-interest to wider ends . . . arguably opening the door for later thinkers like Ayn Rand to argue for selfishness as a social virtue and the root of social progress.

So . . . which is it?

or is it BOTH/AND?

Upon looking at what Wiki has to say about “Stingy” I find a meaning that is far less complicated . . . It simply points to the definition of “Miser”

“A miser is a person who is reluctant to spend, sometimes to the point of forgoing even basic comforts and some necessities, in order to hoard money or other possessions.[1]Although the word is sometimes used loosely to characterise anyone who is mean with their money, if such behaviour is not accompanied by taking delight in what is saved, it is not properly miserly.

So . . . Selfish – Not Stingy!

At the risk of over-simplifying the eons worth of interpretation by the great scholars and thinkers of all time, I believe that if what we want to do is to make real difference in this world we must do whatever it takes to be able to perform at personal HIGH levels.

We live in a very “Raplex” (Rapidly transforming/Complex) World which pulls at us from every direction for our Time, Attention, Energy, Money . . . and we innately want to please – well – EVERYONE!

The issue that arises is that our personal resources (Time, Energy, etc) are finite, so we must make choices.

Some folks choose to be completely “Selfless” and tend to give of themselves boundlessly until they’re “all used up” and thereafter no longer useful to ANYONE. These people GO and GO and GO until they reach a state of terminal exhaustion which renders them inoperable even at basic levels . . . at which point, they can serve NO One.

Others create boundaries and understand this concept of being “Selfish” enough with their personal resources to use them towards “Wider ends.”

“I will take care of me for you, if you will take care of you for me.”

Stephen Covey calls this ” ‘Sharpening the saw”

Each day, attend to your personal Physical, Mental, Spiritual, Social, Emotional, and Financial well being such that there will be enough of you to to be selflessly generous.

Be selfish such that you can be more generous . . .

Not stingy – Hoarding your resources serve no-one . . . not even yourself.

This week, I am swinging into “Implementation Phase” after several weeks of strategizing about optimizing my own personal resources such that I can appropriately and efficiently serve my Home Buying and Selling Clients . . . Help the agents with Pareto Realty develop their Real Estate Sales Careers . . . and Build Pareto Realty as a prominent brand in Middle TN.

Each week begins with a Monday morning of “being selfish” as I hide out  in a quiet place to map out the week and allocate the usage of my resources available for the week . . . By noon, I’m ready to hit the ground in an all-out sprint in service to Family, Friends & Clients.

How ’bout you?

Are you appropriately selfish with your personal resources?

Wishing you a super productive week of serving.


Published by Barry Owen

Strategist-CEO of Pareto Realty Real estate sales Professional Inviter-Facilitator-Practicer of Open Space Technology Opening safe space for people & organizations to self-organize around issues & opportunities BarryOwen.US Invite-Listen-Love

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