“Don’t spend money you don’t have!” (and other Fatherly advice)

Doesn’t it drive you crazy when you get yourself into a pickle and you hear:

“I told you so!” ?

“If only you had LISTENED to me . . . ”

My paternal instincts come forth often as I coach and consult with Professionals who are always doing the best they know to do with the resources they have, and sometimes wander astray of the fundamentals of sound life and business practices.

We are all responding to rapid complexity (My father calls this “raplexity”) in our every day lives. Life is coming at us FAST and we only really get ourselves into trouble when we REACT instead of RESPOND to the myriad transformations happening all around us.

The first instinct is to cast blame on MONEY . . .

“If only I had more money to throw at this problem, everything would be dandy!”

and so we fall into the trap of looking for ways to spend money we don’t have thereby incurring debt . . . or mail the bill payments out a few days before the closing is supposed to happen and then FREAK OUT when the closing does not happen per OUR plan.

Does the shoe fit?

If you don’t think this shoe fits you (ever), please check your pulse immediately.

It’s the times when we get off balance that we become more reactive and less responsive . . . and we tend to make impulsive (Irresponsible) decisions . . . My opinion is that this is EXACTLY what happened to our National Economy. Things got weird and all we could collectively think to do is blame it on money and throw more money at it.

Look where that’s gotten us in the last 3 years.

So – This stuff works on an individual (micro) as well as a National scale (Macro).

We all hate to hear what we hate to hear – the TRUTH, and we all know that when the kakka hits the fan, we can always dig into our brain’s archives and find our own individual contributions to the malady . . . Each of us is playing a role in the whole.

BUT . . . Isn’t it more convenient to stick the head in the sand and “be invisible” until the storm passes?

Each of us lives in a world of CHOICE . . . as I saw in a recent www.tut.com post “It’s not about what we chose as much as it is about what we CHOOSE NOW!

So . . . Some Fatherly advice  for those who accept personal responsibility for their role in where they are right NOW in their lives.

It’s time to “Saddle up”!

You KNOW what to do . . . now, go DO IT!

YOU got yourself into this mess and YOU are the ONLY one who can get yourself out of this mess.

When you’re following your true passion, these obstacles are speed bumps (not road blocks)

Take responsibility without blame or judgement

Don’t count your chickens before they hatch.

Don’t put ALL of your eggs in one basket!

Always keep an eye open for new opportunities!

Luck appears at the intersection of preparation/practice and Opportunity.


Re-invent yourself at least every 2 1/2 years.

Whose dream are you living? Yours? Someone else’s?

Don’t be a Jack of all trades and Master of None – Specialize and BE the expert.



Invite others to participate in your life – If they show up, they’re the right people for now.

Be who you are.

Be a squirrel . . . Store plenty of nuts for later.

Always take the high road!

Do unto others as you would them do unto you.

Love and respect your Mother and Father!

Surround yourself with people you admire.

Believe in yourself as the CEO of your life.

If at any time you find yourself in a place where you are neither giving nor receiving anything of value, take responsibility for your life experience and use your 2 feet to take you to a place where you can contribute and receive. (The Law of 2 Feet – Open Space technology)

On taking care of yourself: “If your body dies, where will you live?”

“We are Spiritual Beings having a human experience” (Gary Keller)

Life’s too short to  . . .

Resentment will kill ya faster than ANYTHING!

Getcha head in the game!

Hmmm . . . I could keep on typing for another hour.


You are nothing short of REMARKABLE as a human being, and you’ve only got this life to show the rest of us what you are capable of doing in ALL of your glory.

Stoke that fire in your belly . . . and let’s get busy doing some great stuff.

I’m inviting you “IN” to you own life purpose.

Are you “IN”?

I’m just sayin’



Published by Barry Owen

Residential Real Estate sales Strategist Search - Analysis - Negotiation - CLOSED Inviter-Facilitator-Practicer of Open Space Technology Opening safe space for people & organizations to self-organize around issues & opportunities BarryOwen.co Invite-Listen-Love

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