Most of us know people whose opinions and guidance we value.

When faced with large, significant decisions, we go to these people and ask their advice: “What do YOU think I should do?”

I’ve seen “Healthy” and “Not-so-healthy” versions of this advice relationship.

In my field of real estate sales, I see the full gambit. It seems that once folks know you are in the market to buy or sell a house, they ALL become “Experts”

Suddenly, they know about prices and terms and structural issues and condition problems and financing . . . even though their personal field of work has little (or nothing) to do with houses and the selling of them.

Sometimes, I just want to STRANGLE “Uncle Joe” because he’s giving “bad advice” and causing my client to make decisions to make decisions on this “BAD advice” . . . This REALLY tends to complicate things for everyone involved in the transaction.

So . . . My advice . . . The BEST advice you could EVER hear (or offer to) from ANYONE is: “Engage the services of a trained professional in the field and act on advice from THAT person.

I had more to say about this, but Seth Godin wrote a cool blog post yesterday that does it for me 🙂

Most advice is bad advice…

People mean well, especially friends and family, but they’re going to give you bad advice.

This leads to two challenges as you strive to create original work that matters:

1. Ignore their advice, even the well-meant entreaties that you stick with the status quo


2. Try to discern the actually useful good advice, so you don’t insulate yourself in the bubble of the self-deluded. In general, this good advice pushes you to go faster, or to do things that make you uncomfortable.

PS the irony of this post is not lost on me.

I and my team of trained professionals at Pareto Realty are poised and ready to serve Home Buyers and sellers in Nashville and Middle TN . . . and we know LOTS of Expert Professionals for EVERY facet of the real estate transaction.

We know our limitations and will refer you to an appropriate pro when you need “GOOD Advice!”



Published by Barry Owen

Residential Real Estate sales Strategist Search - Analysis - Negotiation - CLOSED Inviter-Facilitator-Practicer of Open Space Technology Opening safe space for people & organizations to self-organize around issues & opportunities Invite-Listen-Love

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