These days it’s ALL about “What Matters”

“What MATTERS” = “Your 20%” = “Your Vital Few”

All the rest is the “Trivial Many.”

This first time heard anyone use the words “What Matters” was @ 4 years ago. I was watching Gary Keller giving a talk about his “Quantum Leap” (Life Balance) program. He very matter-of-factly said (not an exact quote):

“It ALL boils down to WHAT MATTERS in your life. When you know WHAT MATTERS, and you commit MORE of THAT and LESS of all the other stuff, your life will improve.”

For years, I had been an avid student of the 80:20 Principle (AKA The Pareto Principle) . . . so much so that I would later name my new real estate firm Pareto Realty. 

Almost EVERYONE recognizes the truth that, in virtually all things, a relatively small percentage of things/people/endeavors produce the majority of the results. This disproportionate ratio applies consistently. The ratio 80:20 showed up as a common measure, although more often than not, the true ratio is more probably 90:10, and the supremely “successful” are considered to be 1%ers.

The challenge for most people comes in recognizing the differentiation between “What’s Vital Few – The 20%?” and “What’s Trivial Many – The 80%?”

When we begin to “unpack” these ideas and assess our own personal effectiveness, we have a veritable gauntlet of obstacles/barriers:

  • Emotions
  • Discipline
  • Relationships
  • Habits
  • Limiting Beliefs
  • Discipline (or lack thereof)
  • Absence of clear goals/vision

It’s VERY easy for us to confuse 80% stuff with 20% stuff . . . sometimes it’s because the 80% stuff can be more FUN and CAREFREE than the 20% stuff.

Even when we have clarity, there’s this vast conspiracy surrounding us as the whole world seems to be vying to distract us from staying on course (in our 20%).

Would you like some real-life proof?

Just try one of the following:

  • Put yourself on a diet to lose unwanted LBs
  • Decide to put yourself on a “time Blocked” routine
  • Decide to break a habit (Drinking Alcohol, Smoking, biting fingernails)
  • Establish a NEW habit – Exercise, Meditation, Reading

Most (80% or more) folks will start but not finish these endeavors . . . thus the reason Health clubs and weight loss programs report HUGE numbers of new customers immediately following “New Year’s Resolutions” being made . . . and then settle back to previous numbers within 3 months.

“Considering What MATTERS” suddenly brings all of this more real (than “Vital few/Trivial Many”) because we really only have to ask a few very simple questions in our new commitment to live a more intentional (and productive) life:

  • Does what I am doing NOW Matter?
  • Do the people around me NOW Matter?
  • Do I feel FULLY present in this moment?
  • Is my mind wandering?
  • How is what’s happening NOW contributing to my goal?

adjust accordingly 🙂

I’m pretty sure Gary Keller wasn’t the guy who coined this phrase (put these 2 words together) . . . He’s just the first person I remember saying it . . . Hearing him say it was my BIG AHA moment wrt 80:20.

Of course, my reticular activator is now fully engaged as it filters out lots of the “noise” making me uber-aware of other folks talking about things that “MATTER”

There are myriad Authors, Motivation Speakers, and Balance/Wellness who are building self-improvement programs around this notion of “What Matters” . . . and I LOVE IT!

My friend (and fellow “Soccer Dad”) Joe Calloway is doing some pretty fantastic stuff relative to all of the above when it comes to business. If you’re lucky, you’ll attend a conference soon and hear Joe talk about how you, too, can “Be the BEST At What MATTERS MOST”

but why wait for that conference?

Just buy the book (Click the picture), read it, and get to work doing MORE of what MATTERS and less of what doesn’t.

Joes bookOnce a quarter, I facilitate a workshop that I call “The Life Rhythm Workshop” which “unpacks” much of the above for the participants over a 6 week period (6 weekly 2 hour sessions).

If you’re ready to do some unpacking and establish some healthy new habits personally and professionally, connect with me to register.

we will talk a LOT about what MATTERS and will provide some nifty tools for breaking through the barriers.

There now . . . What Matters for me today is to get OUTSIDE. It’s a beautiful day here in Nashville, and our daughters have some serious soccer to play 🙂

Published by Barry Owen

Strategist-CEO of Pareto Realty Real estate sales Professional Inviter-Facilitator-Practicer of Open Space Technology Opening safe space for people & organizations to self-organize around issues & opportunities BarryOwen.US Invite-Listen-Love

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