On the Toxicity of A Communication BLACK HOLE

Why is it so difficult for some folks to confirm receipt?

A simple “got it” text would do (hops off soap box)

If I ever go postal, this will be the reason

I posted this on a REALTOR Facebook forum and immediately got LOTS of “Confirmation of receipt” (50+ “Likes” and several comments).

It seems I struck a nerve for many folks, and I suspect it’s not just relevant to REALTORS.

Doesn’t it drive you BONKERS when you send important communication (Like an Offer to Purchase a House) to someone . . . and they don’t have the decency to let you know they received it?

This damages the probability of building strong rapport, trust, cooperation, and getting things done.

I can’t think of a single justifiable reason not to acknowledge receipt, and I can think of a bajillion ways it’s potentially damaging and even TOXIC.

When there’s no “feedback,” the sender has NOTHING in the way of information from the other side and really has no other path to travel than one of imagining “conspiracy theories” as to why this person is failing to acknowledge.

Of course, the receiving party could be BUSY or in midst of personal crisis or technologically challenged, and I am in no way expecting a deep dialog immediately . . . ONLY some sign of life from the other side even if it’s just a “K” by text.

You might accuse me of being melodramatic with my comparison to a Communication BLACK HOLE, so I invite you to read this definition and decide for yourself.

I Googled “Black Hole” and got this info (and Picture) from ASK

Black Hole

“A black hole is a mathematically defined region of spacetime exhibiting such a strong gravitational pull that no imminent particle or electromagnetic radiation can escape from it.[1]The theory of general relativity predicts that a sufficiently compact mass can deform spacetime to form a black hole.[2] The boundary of the region from which no escape is possible is called the event horizon. Although crossing the event horizon has enormous effect on the fate of the object crossing it, it appears to have no locally detectable features. In many ways a black hole acts like an ideal black body, as it reflects no light.[3][4] Moreover, quantum field theory in curved spacetime predicts that event horizons emit Hawking radiation, with the same spectrum as a black body of a temperature inversely proportional to its mass. This temperature is on the order of billionths of a kelvin for black holes of stellar mass, making it essentially impossible to observe.”

 OK . . .

You’ve read it . . .

Does it adequately describe how and why you feel the way you do when you find yourself communicating to – well – NOTHING?

Published by Barry Owen

Strategist-CEO of Pareto Realty Real estate sales Professional Inviter-Facilitator-Practicer of Open Space Technology Opening safe space for people & organizations to self-organize around issues & opportunities BarryOwen.US Invite-Listen-Love

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