Tis the season to serve 1st YOU, then others

In the following days and weeks, many of us will be doing for others even though we may be empty of time, energy, and/or money. We may feel obliged to give “enough” . . . such that our gift is commensurate in thought, creativity, cost, and “FAME” wins the competition to give the BEST gift.

If you’re nodding your head with recognition of this annually recurring theme, I hereby proclaim that YOU are EXEMPT from the fracas. I’m not suggesting that you not give ANY gifts . . . instead, I am encouraging you to give yourself the first gift with your attention to your Spiritual, Mental, and physical well being. What is this gift that NO ONE else is likely to give you . . .? This gift honors who you are and what you stand for. This gift offers inner peace and rejuvenation. This gift to yourself gives you the space you need in order to weather, with confidence and joy, the “STORM” – MAELSTROM? which may have traditionally has cast a pall which has cause a forgetting of the reason for the season.

Let go . . . and LET’S GO! this holiday season by intentionally reserving a little slice of time at the beginning of each day for practicing our Spiritual (Meditate/Pray), Mental (Read/Listen to podcast), Emotional (Love, laugh, play), and physical (exercise, eat a healthy meal.

First thing EVERY day . . . do this, and you will amaze yourself with your own generosity to gifting others . . . effortlessly.

Here’s the REAL gift of this post: It’s not just for the Holidays . . . On January 2, simply resolve to continue caring for yourself in this way each and every day, and I believe your overall quality of life will improve markedly.

AND your generosity of gift giving will be effortless and more from your heart.

I’ll close this with an affirmation from Deepak Chopra’s The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success

The Law of Giving

I will put the law of Giving into effect by making a commitment to take the following steps:

  1. Wherever I go, and whoever I encounter, I will bring them a gift. The gift may be a compliment, a flower, or a prayer. Today, I will give something to everyone I come in contact with, and so I will begin the process of circulating joy, wealth, and affluence in my life and in the lives of others.
  2. Today I will gratefully receive all the gifts that life has to offer me. I will receive the gifts of nature: sunlight and the sound of birds singing, or spring showers or the first snow of winter. I will also be open to receiving from others, whether it be in the form of a material gift, ,money, a compliment, or a prayer.
  3. I will make a commitment to keep wealth circulating in my life by giving and receiving life’s most precious gifts: the gifts of caring, affection,appreciation, and love. Each time I meet someone, I will silently wish them happiness, joy, and laughter.”

Blessings to you from Owen Hollow!

Are you in need of assistance?

While travelling from Owen Hollow to my office this morning, I saw a man standing beside his relatively new, disabled truck (RAM) with hazard blinkers. Because we truck owners respect each other (We make way for each other to merge in heavy traffic and always acknowledge appreciation with a wave), I pulled over to offer assistance.

What non truck owners probably may not know is that “Brand Matters”, and we are VERY passionate about our brands; therefore, we take great pleasure in assisting other truck owners with other than-our- brand trucks which have FAILED and NEED assistance. (This demonstrates weakness)

This RAM owner had to withstand an appropriate level of snickering and ribbing from this diehard FORD owner while we together worked through the task at hand (changing a flat tire).

It was like shooting fish in a barrel for me . . . He was a sitting duck.

Some folks might disagree that a flat tire has anything whatsoever with the quality of the Brand of truck, but . . . Invariably, after the work was done and we truck owners were respectfully parting ways, I just HAD to poke the bear one last time . . . Glad to help you, but you DO know that, if you had a FORD, this would not have happened, don’t you?

We both chuckled and headed to the office.

1 block later

A lady with a dog in her HONDA accord was standing next to her car looking flustered. The guy in the RAM was behind me . . . We both simultaneously gave each other a thumbs up, and we both pulled over to help get her car out of the travel lane (the engine had stopped).

As I was leaving her, I thought: “If only she were driving a FORD TRUCK” . . .

and the guy behind me was likely thinking: “If only she were driving a RAM TRUCK” . . .

Know your people/Tribe, and serve EVERYONE whenever able.

It’s a truck thing . . .

Vaporizing Location-Location-Location

Well . . . For eons, the adage for real estate has been the 3 “Ls” . . .




You can’t go wrong, if you buy in the HOTTEST location.

Well – In the current market, Location isn’t proving to be king.

It seems that, if the structure is standing with reasonable condition, it’s gonna SELL regardless of location.

Meanwhile, the internet continues to provide an array of new ways Home Buyers and Sellers can Buy & Sell houses . . . and apparently not much thought that this is likely going to be THE LARGEST financial transaction of their LIVES.

Like lemmings jumping to their demise along the Alaskan coast’ , there they go.

Realtors are rejoicing as many of the MLS systems increase their reach as the big fish eat the little fish, and there’s much conversation that the WHOLE of North America could be served in every market one day.

This scares the bejeebers out of me!

When/if that day comes? Armed with the appropriate State licenses, agents will be able to work anywhere anytime whether they know the market or not.

This, my friends will be the end of the “Real Estate Sales PROFESSIONAL . . . 1.4 Million Jacks of all trades and masters of none.

This will quickly become a race to the bottom.

What’s the inevitability of this happening?

I think it’s got a shot at prevailing . . .



There we will be a select “Vital Few” Real Estate Sales PROFESSIONALS who will refuse to compromise their Luxury Service standard.

140,000 Warriors

They will carve out unique Niches where they will quietly be the stalwart guardians who continue serving exceptional service.

STAND STRONG Brothers and Sisters!

Let’s hold this line of Professionalism!

I ramble on about this in this morning’s BarrysDriveTime video


Let’s run this past the Advisory Committee

A few years ago, I was invited to serve on the Realtracs Advisory Committee for Greater Nashville Realtors Board of Directors. Greater Nashville Realtors along with 6 other Middle Tennessee Realtor Associations own Realtracs, and certainly have a vested interest in Realtracs building the BEST MLS platform possible for Realtors in Nashville and beyond.

This is NOT an oversight committee – not a Watchdog group poised to catch any signs of malfeasance . . . chomping at the bit to POUNCE! This committee serves as the “eyes & ears” for the Board listening for recommendations from the end users (Realtor members) for fixing things that could be smoother or more intuitive or more convenient.

This committee meets quarterly and provides a written document containing a list of recommendations for tweaks. That document passes to the Board via a designated “Realtracs Liaison” Board member. The boards reviews the recommendations and then connects with Stuart White, Mark Hill, and their merry band of geniuses who are building the BEST MLS on the PLANET . . . and this is the rhythm of healthy, constructive feedback that serves magnificently as a vital tool for prioritizing all of the myriad “To Dos” on the white board in the skunkworks space.

Hmmmmmm . . .

I wonder how many other organizations have an advisory committee?

If not, I’m imagining potential reasons Owners/CEOs do NOT have such an advisory committee?

  • Maybe the Leadership don’t know of such thing
  • Maybe ego precludes them from permitting such a thing . . . “After all, I’m the LEADER and I KNOW everything I need to know. I don’t need the distractions from my carefully crafted AGENDA.”
  • “I can see how this could be beneficial, but I don’t want to change anything I’m doing now . . . It ain’t broken – why rock the boat?”
  • “I don’t know how?”

Stagnant ponds deplete the oxygen to the extent that it will not sustain life, so there’s a need to aerate the water with use of a fountain or the simple concept of water in and water out – Fresh water in from a spring or creek.

Same goes with fresh perspectives and ideas in an organization.

Invite new ideas – ALWAYS!

Generosity of Spirit Impacts Lives

After a full day of serving others in various ways (Advising Home Buyers & Sellers, Coaching Real Estate advisors, lifting up a friend who was down, Loving a friend who needed love, Eating a few frogs, and battling a few rogue “Bad Actors” who were taking advantage of a client in a moment of weakness) . . .

I drove home, poured a glass of gin, and reflected on the day.

In this wistful moment, I wrote on Facebook this simple affirmation:

“What if, at the end of every day, we can simply & truthfully proclaim that we made a positive difference in the lives of those whose paths crossed with ours?

I think we can . . . LET’S GO!


It occurred to me this morning that we are ALL Super Heroes.

Each and every one of us meets potential throughout our days to offer charity, and we do this selflessly without hesitation.

Just imagine how powerful it would be if we were to do this intentionally?

Fueled by taking responsibility for our passion to serve others

The special sauce that drives this train is authentic Generosity.

Generosity begets Generosity in perpetuity.

Add Spirit to the mix, and we’ve got ourselves the perfect recipe for World Peace . . . and it’s FREE for the taking – always has been and always will be.