A Recipe For Being High on Life

There’s a veritable trifecta of good Mojo Happening in the next 30 days


You’re invited to ALL of it.

We begin with the Kick-off of the next “Life Rhythm Workshop

This workshop is four weekly 2 hour sessions beginning Thursday Noon 2/20/2020. If you’re frustrated with yourself with respect to your satisfaction of your quality of life, THIS workshop is for YOU!

Yep! We begin with working together to recognize and honor WHO we are and why we are here on planet Earth. Who are we here to serve, and how will we do this optimally? How can each and every one of us fulfill our unique potential?

My hypothesis is that most people are working too hard to enjoy the level of Joy, Happiness, and fulfillment we all deserve.

Let’s learn to be a little more “selfish” with our time, energy, and money and practice taking care of Self FIRST such we can project the power of our unique qualities and talents to positively influence those we are here to serve.

In these 4 sessions, we will unpack – roles and goals – Doing more with less effort by engaging the Pareto Principle (80/20) – Living in flow – Working IN your Business and working ON your business and knowing the difference – and 2 full hours of learning some “training wheels” of caring for yourself through attentiveness to Spiritual, Mental, Physical, Social, and emotional self energy.

When you complete these four session , you WILL experience a lift in terms of finding more happiness, joy, and enhanced self regard/worth.

March 12 will be the “Commencement date” of the new you 🙂

Just a few days later – March 16, 2020 – The World Happiness Festival – Nashville Agora LAUNCHES for 7 days – and each day has a unique Theme.

  • 16 March – Happiness at Work
  • 17 March – Education
  • 18 March – Social Impact and Personal Development
  • 19 March – Health and Well Being
  • 20 March – Technology of Well-Being
  • 21 March – Let’s Take care of our planet
  • 22 March – Solidarity Happiness Race


We will Open Space each day and will connect virtually in a variety of ways throughout this amazing journey of bringing more happiness in the world such that we collectively shift to a way of all of humanity to live in a way that naturally leads to the healing our our planet.

Deepak Chopra in The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success says the following:

The third piece of this trifecta will manifest as a result of the first two. We cannot even fathom what that will look, feel, taste,smell, hear . . . sense like, but one thing we do know is that the more people we “infect” with Happiness, the better we (and our planet) will be.

Are you IN?

Life Rhythm Workshop

World Happiness Festival – Nashville Agora

Click the links above to register – There is NO cost for the Life Rhythm Workshop and a “Donation” cost – Whatever you are willing to pay – for the World Happiness Festival Nashville Agora.

Stop seeking “Life Balance”!

Balance is an illusion.

When we shift our mindset from “Life Balance” to “Life Rhythm”, AMAZING things begin to happen.

We find ourselves getting more done with less effort.

The right people start showing up in the right places at EXACTLY the right times.

It is when we understand the Law of Least Effort powered by the sole principle of focusing on The Vital Few, we will have the most fantastic moments of flow . . . effortless productivity.

This isn’t VOODOO . . . It’s as simple as caring for Whole Self first by aligning with our Spiritual, Mental, Physical, Social, & Emotional well being.

In preparation for the upcoming World Happiness Fest 2020 – Nashville Agora, I am offering this opportunity to do some awesome “mindset” work.

Initially created to help REALTORS live better lives, this “workshop” is applicable for all people of all professions.

Four 2 hour (12-2) sessions on consecutive Thursdays beginning February 20

2/20/2020 – Who are you and why are you here? What are your Roles in life? Goals? Aspirations?

2/27/2020 – Creating your own personal Rhythm infused with appropriate attention to “Vital Few” resources (Time, Energy, Money)

3/5/2020 – Working IN your business and working ON your business (and knowing the difference)

3/12/2020 – Working on yourself. Opening Space for vibrant living, Taking care of YOU! Living in the NOW (instead of the past . . . or future)

The cost : 8 hours of your time and attention

The value: A better way of living – priceless

Will you join us?

Visit this link to register (No $ cost)


More World Happiness Coming From Nashville TN


Barry Owen and Joe Brodnicki will co-host the World Happiness Festival Nashville Agora (Tennessee USA) March 16-22, 2020. As one of the 60 AGORAS in the world, the Nashville AGORA will be conspicuously NOT like the others.

Why and how will our AGORA be unique?

We’ve “broken the mold” with an absolutely ridiculous scheme to blend Open Space Technology with World Happiness, and we know in our hearts that this is a match made in Heaven.

Who are we?

Barry Owen owns and operates Pareto Realty, a boutique Real Estate Sales Firm in Nashville, TN. Barry is a Native Nashvillian. In his lifetime, Barry has lived a multifaceted career path from Restaurant management – to 12 years as an US Army Combat Engineer Officer – and then into residential Real estate Sales – which led to Barry joining a team of folks who introduced and launched Keller Williams Realty into Tennessee (12 offices – 1200 agents in 3 years). He then served as Principal Broker of the premier Keller Williams Realty in Nashville for 5 years before opening Pareto Realty. Throughout all of those experiences, Barry “lived in Open Space”, that is, lived by the principles and Law of Open Space Technology . . . a “technology” that his father Harrison Owen “discovered” in the late 1980’s. The 5 principles of whoever Comes is the right people, wherever it happens is the right place, whenever it starts is the right time, whatever happens is the only thing that could have, and when it’s over it’s over have been guiding principles for Barry for his entire adulthood. The “Law of 2 Feet” simply mandates that: “If at any time you find yourself in a place where you are neither contributing or receiving anything of value, you have the right and the responsibility to use your 2 feet to take yourself to a place where you CAN contribute and receive . . . In other words – “Be Useful”.

Joe Brodnicki has spent the last 40 years improving organizational performance by enabling collaboration, building partnerships, improving quality, and developing leaders. His clients have received multiple awards and recognition for innovations and excellence in the government sector. They include the Centers for Medicare and Medicaid Services, the Indian Health Service, the National Institute of Corrections, the Tennessee Department of Correction, and the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Joe specializes in self-actualization trainings for leadership and innovation. He also facilitates diverse, often conflicted groups to get extraordinary results in less time than imagined. He lives in Hendersonville, Tennessee.

How did we end up in this tangled web of co-creating this self-organizing marvel?

At the World Open Space on Open Space in October 2019, Barry and Joe met Luis Gallardo and learned of the World Happiness Festival and INSTANTLY “got it” . . . The simple Idea that more happiness in the world leads to a healthier world. Luis’ spirit, drive, passion, and “LET’S GO!” way were infectious happiness. Luis wondered aloud what it might look like if we were to “integrate” Open Space Technology into the World Happiness Festival.

Nashville, TN is exploding with population and growth. The soul of Nashville is being tested (as is the entire planet). Barry believes NOW is the right time for Nashville to experience this power of happiness.

The path from there took two ways – Suzanne Daigle and Lucas Cioffi have co-created an amazing virtual meeting space using Lucas’ platform QiQoChat. Barry’s passion for the ineffable power of Open Space Technology (OST) took him (along with co-conspirator Joe Brodnicki) the direction of Hosting this Nashville Agora.

Together with whomever shows up, we will Open Space seven consecutive days from March 16-22. The theme of each day will coincide with the theme of that day for the World Happiness Festival. We will display (video projection) all of the streamed content from the larger event and will congruently engage in discussion of any related topics posted on our Bulletin Board each morning. We will gather notes from each session and create a “book of proceedings” for each day. We will add all of the World Happiness Fest Topics/Speakers sessions to the local bulletin Board and will “Tie in” to the larger QiQoChat as is possible.

  • 16 March – Happiness at Work
  • 17 March – Education
  • 18 March – Social Impact and Personal Development
  • 19 March – Health and Well Being
  • 20 March – Technology of Well-Being
  • 21 March – Let’s Take care of our planet
  • 22 March – Solidarity Happiness Race
  • https://www.happinessfest.world/en/agenda-de-la-semana/

Each day will have a different facilitator providing an element of “training” for any participants who wish to learn by doing. We believe that a Nashville Happiness Agora in Open Space will open space for the healing of all Local Participants, the city of Nashville, and the world.

The “mantra” of Harrison Owen (Discovered OST) is simple . . . “Just Open More Space” and I believe blending Happiness and OST will make a significant difference in the lives of many people resulting in a healthier world now and going forward.

Visit http://NashvilleAgoraRegistration.com to register. You’ll see that this a “Donation” instead of a set price. Please pay whatever you are willing and able to pay. Our focus is on making sure everyone who wants to attend to be able without concern for money. All money remaining after paying expenses will be donated to World Happiness

Without a dog in the hunt

Real estate sales professionals are the “Quarterbacks” on the home sale team.

Somewhere in the neighborhood of 42 people participate in every transaction – Buyers – Sellers – Lenders – Appraisers – Title Companies – Contractors – Inspectors and the list goes on including all of the staff of all of these players.

So . . . technically, every transaction is its own 42ish person organization (team). All of these people have crucial functions in this and important, wildly complex endeavor. One dropped ball by ANYONE at ANY time could kibosh the entire deal resulting in home buyers not owning that house they love and Sellers not being able to move on with their new lifestyle in a different house. Indeed, the stakes are HIGH!

Most of the these transactions originate with REALTORS. Home Buyers and Sellers “hire” these professionals as exclusive representatives on a contingency fee basis . . . The REALTOR doesn’t receive compensation until or unless the transaction CLOSES and FUNDS. That’s right . . . a REALTOR could work with a client for untold hours “invested” over a period of MONTHS and not make a dime.

Is there any other “profession” that works this way?

It’s the REALTORS who typically refer many of those 42 players aforementioned to their clients. Many of these “vendors” are receiving most of their business from a select group of REALTORS and literally do not need to pay for any marketing for new business.

A common frustration in our industry is that these referral “relationships” are largely “one way streets” . . . Other than a “thank you”, lenders and other vendors seldom reciprocate by referring new clients to REALTORS. When asked why, the response often is along the lines that they seldom run across unrepresented buyers and sellers (because they are not having to market for them) and when they do have the opportunity, they have too many REALTORS sending them business to be able scratch everyone’s back with occasional referrals . . . hmmm.

RESPA allows Lenders to participate financially in co-marketing with REALTORS. The guidelines are clear and absolute. ANY Lender can “support” a REALTOR by helping defray marketing fees which lead to more leads for the REALTOR thereby creating more business for the . . . LENDER.

I think it’s nothing more than “good business” for these co-marketing pursuits because everyone who has a dog in the hunt WINS!

So . . . why are so many lenders so unwilling to be contributing team players?

Please note that I did not mention any absolutes . . . some lenders DO very generously (within RESPA rules) support their REALTOR “partners”.

The bottom line for me is full of candor . . . We all expect everyone in our rolodex to do what they do well, timely, and professionally. That’s the baseline . . . I think it’s fair to expect more than baseline by bringing a dog to the hunt – Full participation = Partnership.

Where’s the escape hatch?

Monday Morning Coffee – Tuesday Edition

Is it enough to know where that hatch is?

Do you know how to open it?


Most sales people choose not to talk about how the customer goes about cancelling their new “relationship” in the event it’s not the brilliant, game changing experienced for which they think they signed up.

The savvy one’s amongst us ask tough questions up front:

  • What’s the commitment?
  • If/When I decide to cancel, how do I do so?
  • Will there be a penalty?
  • When I cancel, will you try to “win my business back” by offering a “significant discount”? (If so, let’s save some time and game playing . . . How’bout you give me that discounted price now . . . just in case . . . )

I’ve found that most folks who enter “relationships” of any kind and ask these kinds of questions aren’t (yet) committed to the purchase.

These people are focusing on an exit strategy before they’re married.

For me, this boils down to trust.

Choosing to do business with people we trust is a better strategy.

Exit strategies fade in the bright light of trust and leadership.

Yes . . . “Salespeople” can be Leaders – Trusted advisers guide customers to smart choices.

Authenticity – Integrity – Grit – Win Win – Knowledge and even wisdom create conditions that are safe for the customer.

We service folks know that our primary function is to educate, advise, and execute a smooth process such that the customers can focus on the things that are most important . . . making informed decisions that solve whatever issue is at hand.

Most (not all) REALTORS “get” this at a high level. Our reputation/livelihood is at stake as we guide clients through the important complex transaction(s) of making a move.

Here’s my advice . . . Choose your REALTOR carefully. Be certain that you’ve decided to make this move and do some serious heart thinking to be clear about your intentions and desires . . . and THEN find a REALTOR who specializes in serving YOU within YOUR niche.

In this world of omniscient internet proliferation, please don’t ever forget the 3 most important words and 1 “mandate” in every real estate transaction.



What is the lifestyle transition you wish to make with this move?

I and “The Vital Few” Real Estate Sales Professionals of Pareto Realty “get” these principles at a very high level and “practice to excel” each and every day because we know that as each of us succeeds through serving our clients quintessentially, we ALL succeed.

If you’re contemplating a move, the best time to get the process started is NOW . . . The first step is a “listening consultation” with your favorite Vital Few member.

If you are a REALTOR who is contemplating a move, I’m eager to meet with you to learn more about intentions and desires relative to your career – Connect with me barry@ParetoRealtyLLC.com

Let’s GO!